Enjoyable sex: it isn’t about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. It’s about Intimate Intelligence.

In his three decades of working with individuals and couples as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein has continually noticed that although most people state what they need from sex is normally enjoyment and closeness, that’s not what they focus on during sex. Rather, we’re preoccupied with how exactly we appear, what our partner is certainly considering, how we’re carrying out, and about Sexual Intelligence: WHAT WE SHOULD WANT from Sex–and Ways to get It whether we’re “normal.” We do more thinking, stressing, and judging than encountering. Sex like this can’t thrill us, can’t create intimacy, and can’t, well, experience sexy.

In Sexual Cleverness, Klein shows how exactly to end observing ourselves during intercourse, ending our obsession with sexual performance and intimate normality. “I don’t help people ‘function’ better during sex,” he says. “I educate people how exactly to relax and revel in sex with the body they possess, the partner they possess, in the situation they have.” Now that’s something most of us want: fulfilling, exciting sex at every stage of our lives.

In Sexual Cleverness, Klein challenges our understanding of sex, love, intimacy, romance, and satisfaction. After all, sex is not only an activity. Transformation how you consider sex, and you can transformation your sex life-forever.