If ‘Who am I?’ is the question you’re asking, Rachel Jankovic doesn’t need you to ‘find yourself’ or ‘follow your heart.’

Those lays are nothing towards the confidence, freedom, and clarity of purpose that come with knowing what’s actually essential about you. As well as the answer to that query reaches once less and more than everything you are hoping for.

Christians love the idea that self-expression may be the essence of a lovely person, but that is clearly a rest, too. With brand humor no nonsense about You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It practicality, Rachel Jankovic explains the fake story from the Self, you start with the innovations of the supremely ugly guy named Sartre (rhymes with ‘blart’). And we—women and men, young and aged—have bought his lay of the greatest Self, with awful results.

Thankfully, that isn’t the finish of our story, You Who: Why You Matter and How to Deal with It requires the identity question in to the nitty gritty information on everyday life. Here’s the 1st clue: Stop looking inside, and begin planting flags of everyday faithfulness. In Christianity, the self is always a tool and never a destination.

Rachel Jankovic is a wife and mom of seven children. She is heavily involved with the Christ Cathedral Women’ Bible Reading Challenge, and she is author of Adoring the tiny Years: Motherhood in the Trenches and Fit to Burst, two books on Christian motherhood.